Comments on: “What would I do if I caught my teenager stealing?” http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/ Parenting troubled teens, problem teenagers, adolescent behavior problems Fri, 28 Jan 2011 10:38:38 +0000 hourly 1 By: Cindy http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Cindy Mon, 27 Dec 2010 04:04:52 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-91 my stgep daughter is living with us now and we have always known that she was stealling, but today her, my daughter and I went to a department store and when we got home i caught her with necklas i had never seen before. long story short she said she took it from kohls. I told my husband and we drove her back to the store, walked in asked for a manager and made her give it back and apologize. she thought it was funny all she did was laugh.. the manager told her that she was lucky that loss prevention was not there or else they would have arrested her. She Thanked us and told her not to do it again she just started living with us and we know that we have our work cut out for us.. we are determined not to give up on her. Cindy my stgep daughter is living with us now and we have always known that she was stealling, but today her, my daughter and I went to a department store and when we got home i caught her with necklas i had never seen before. long story short she said she took it from kohls. I told my husband and we drove her back to the store, walked in asked for a manager and made her give it back and apologize.

she thought it was funny all she did was laugh..

the manager told her that she was lucky that loss prevention was not there or else they would have arrested her. She Thanked us and told her not to do it again

she just started living with us and we know that we have our work cut out for us..
we are determined not to give up on her.

Cindy

]]> By: Editor http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-65 Editor Tue, 27 Apr 2010 03:16:15 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-65 This is not the place for giving individual advice for particular situations. Personal help can only be provided through therapy or live parenting courses where the therapist gets to know your family. Yes, the information I offer is general and I realize that most situations are not general but unique to each particular family. Our purpose here at this website is to get parents and teens alike to start thinking about these problems and difficult situations that come up in many families throughout the teen years. If you're in need of particular advice please contact a local counselor or even pick up one or more of the resources for parents suggested on this site and elsewhere. As for the teen comments thinking that stealing is cool or that it's something you need to do in order to fit in, you won't think it's so cool when you get caught and suffer the consequences for your actions. Jail or adolescent detention centers aren't so cool and no matter what you think, every time you steal you risk going to jail and other very serious consequences. Marsha This is not the place for giving individual advice for particular situations. Personal help can only be provided through therapy or live parenting courses where the therapist gets to know your family. Yes, the information I offer is general and I realize that most situations are not general but unique to each particular family. Our purpose here at this website is to get parents and teens alike to start thinking about these problems and difficult situations that come up in many families throughout the teen years.

If you’re in need of particular advice please contact a local counselor or even pick up one or more of the resources for parents suggested on this site and elsewhere.

As for the teen comments thinking that stealing is cool or that it’s something you need to do in order to fit in, you won’t think it’s so cool when you get caught and suffer the consequences for your actions. Jail or adolescent detention centers aren’t so cool and no matter what you think, every time you steal you risk going to jail and other very serious consequences.

Marsha

]]> By: Bailey Hunt http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Bailey Hunt Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:46:57 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-64 When im out shopping with my friends i just can't help it! me and my friends do it and i get pressured! When im out shopping with my friends i just can’t help it!
me and my friends do it and i get pressured!

]]> By: Luca Job http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Luca Job Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:45:41 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-63 um im a teen and i steal and its cool ok um im a teen and i steal and its cool ok

]]> By: Crystal Score http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Crystal Score Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:43:22 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-62 Oh sibel that is sooo not cool Oh sibel that is sooo not cool

]]> By: Sibel Tokgoz http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-61 Sibel Tokgoz Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:41:36 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-61 I steal because im cool and if i don't, i feel like i have a hole inside of me that has not yet been filled so thats why i choose to steal because im cool I steal because im cool and if i don’t, i feel like i have a hole inside of me that has not yet been filled so thats why i choose to steal because im cool

]]> By: Liana http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-60 Liana Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:39:46 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-60 Really great advice, but i tried it on my child who steals and she just keeps on doing it any advice ? Really great advice,
but i tried it on my child who steals and she just keeps on doing it any advice ?

]]> By: Alysia http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-58 Alysia Wed, 21 Apr 2010 21:51:32 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-58 I am a mother who cares very much about what my daughter has to say. I want to listen to her, but she refuses to talk to me. I never had much of a relationship with my mother and desire to have a lasting bond with my daughter. Her lack of interest to confide in me is not something that I hold against her, but I patiently wait for her to come to me and willingly absorb the opportunities she gives me to advise her and give her my support. I am so proud of my daughter, not only for her accomplishments, but especially for no reason other than she is my daughter and I love her. Recently I became aware of the fact that she had stolen something and I am having a very hard time dealing with my feelings and emotions. I am mostly dissappointed because I feel this behavior is completely out of character for her. I am angry because she has never worked hard for anything, yet enjoys many luxuries that I would have had to provided for myself at her age. I understand that times are tough and her father and I work hard to provide for our family, not having the money to give her every thing that she desires, but she lacks nothing. As much as I am feeling that I am failing her as a parent, I do not want to make this about me. I want to handle this situation properly so that she will not pull away from me but know that I am here for her no matter what. She is, and will always be, "My Baby Girl"! Thank you for this website! I am a mother who cares very much about what my daughter has to say. I want to listen to her, but she refuses to talk to me. I never had much of a relationship with my mother and desire to have a lasting bond with my daughter. Her lack of interest to confide in me is not something that I hold against her, but I patiently wait for her to come to me and willingly absorb the opportunities she gives me to advise her and give her my support.

I am so proud of my daughter, not only for her accomplishments, but especially for no reason other than she is my daughter and I love her. Recently I became aware of the fact that she had stolen something and I am having a very hard time dealing with my feelings and emotions. I am mostly dissappointed because I feel this behavior is completely out of character for her. I am angry because she has never worked hard for anything, yet enjoys many luxuries that I would have had to provided for myself at her age. I understand that times are tough and her father and I work hard to provide for our family, not having the money to give her every thing that she desires, but she lacks nothing.

As much as I am feeling that I am failing her as a parent, I do not want to make this about me. I want to handle this situation properly so that she will not pull away from me but know that I am here for her no matter what. She is, and will always be, “My Baby Girl”!

Thank you for this website!

]]> By: Suzie http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-57 Suzie Tue, 20 Apr 2010 22:39:10 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-57 I was disappointed when there were no examples given for what kind of consequences to give. You state in the article to make sure the discipline fits but I need some suggestions. What is the recommended discipline when you've just found out that your teenage child has been stealing? So far, she has returned most of the items taken. She should be paying for what she can't find to return but I don't know where she'll get the money to do that. Furthermore, I'll have her write a letter of apology to the person concerned. I am so disappointed right now that I also feel like taking away her dance camp for this summer. What do you think? I was disappointed when there were no examples given for what kind of consequences to give. You state in the article to make sure the discipline fits but I need some suggestions. What is the recommended discipline when you’ve just found out that your teenage child has been stealing? So far, she has returned most of the items taken. She should be paying for what she can’t find to return but I don’t know where she’ll get the money to do that. Furthermore, I’ll have her write a letter of apology to the person concerned. I am so disappointed right now that I also feel like taking away her dance camp for this summer. What do you think?

]]> By: Editor http://troubledteensolutions.com/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Editor Thu, 15 Apr 2010 16:46:22 +0000 http://troubledteensolutions.com/prevention/what-would-i-do-if-i-caught-my-teenager-stealing/#comment-53 Anna, Please explain what you believe is true and untrue about this article. Your point of view would be helpful to me and other readers of this website. Anna,

Please explain what you believe is true and untrue about this article. Your point of view would be helpful to me and other readers of this website.

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